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How to Be Emotionally Balanced for Physical Health
by Marc De Bruin

"The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly." Buddha

Lately I have been reading through Brandon Bays's book "The Journey". For those of you who don't know her or her work, Brandon is a NLP practitioner, and for quite some time worked together with Anthony Robbins. At some point, she was diagnosed with cancer; a tumour the size of a big watermelon! Using a method she now calls "the journey", she got herself through this episode, and is now cancer free. Quite an amazing story.

The importance of her book lies in a realisation I have been making my clients aware of for years, now: our thoughts influence our state of health. I won't say that our health is 100 percent dependent on our thoughts, but the percentage is really high, I can tell you that. NLP recognises the link between mental and emotional health, and modern medicine is too, nowadays. Any GP will agree that stressful events will affect your physical well-being. Hey, we all had the tension head-aches once or twice, haven't we?

If good thoughts and feelings can improve our health, and bad ones do the opposite, what then is the right course of action when we experience bad thoughts and feelings? They are going to come up some time!

The easiest way to deal with negative emotions, both in business settings --anger, frustration, impatience, anxiety, resentment, etc.- and private settings --sadness, despair, grief, anger, jealousy, hopelessness, etc., is: experience them for what they are. Just emotions.

A great NLP technique in this respect is to "observe" the emotion as much as you can:

* Where does the emotion "sit" in your body? Where do you feel it most? * Does it have a shape? * How big is it? * Is it moving? * Is there a colour to the shape? * Is there a sound associated with it? * Is a certain feeling attached to it?

By observing the emotion, you're not the sufferer of it anymore. Furthermore, by observing it, you will generally not "stuff it down and bury it". This suppression-action is usually the cause of mental "stuff" becoming physical "stuff".

In my practice I use various methods to shift negative emotions into a more uplifting ones. That can only be done after you realise you HAVE an actual emotion, and are willing to look at it. In so far this topic blends in with the topic of "presence" that I have been discussing lately. In order to look at your emotional state, you need to be present.

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Firstly, acknowledge that you will always have feelings in your life, both negative and positive. We are human beings, and part of our make-up is our emotional health. We are feeling beings.

Secondly, become aware of the physical effect of negative emotions. Headaches, shoulder tension, lower back pain, tummy aches, heart palpitations, shortness of breath, they all can be the effect of you having a negative emotion running through your system!

Thirdly, become observant. Don't let the emotion live you; let the emotion be what it is: a thought process with a physical component. Once you feel something negative in your system, apply the above NLP technique to it. If you stay observant enough, you will find that the emotion fades away pretty quickly.

Lastly, stay away from now trying to "get rid of" your most predominant negative emotion. We humans have the tendency to try a newly learned technique on our greatest issues. This is pretty silly. Start off with small negative emotions, and work your way up as you get better at observing!

Learning to BE with your emotions, no matter what they are, is something relatively foreign to most people. I can teach you ways to get really good at it, though, and your body will love you for it. Moreover, your overall state of mind will "brighten up" when you practice, which allows the Law of Attraction to bring you more favourable situations. It's worth while giving it a go!

And for a touch of fun, have a chuckle at this:

Warning: Humor may be hazardous to your illness -Ellie Katz

Marc is a certified life/business coach, master NLP Practitioner and AusIDentities Personalities Facilitator on the Sunshine Coast in Queensland, Australia. Working as an Executive Business mentor with Glenn Dietzel, Marc is among Australia's Law of Attraction (LOA) experts, and coaches/mentors internationally with the LOA principles in both business and private settings. Marc inspires his clients to create "Knowareness", a powerful state of presence that allows clients to make the right decisions at the right time, all the time. Through powerful Personality Type Profiling techniques, Values Elicitation and Business Positioning tools Marc takes his clients' lives and businesses to massive new heights. Having been a lawyer for nearly 9 years in his “previous life”, before immigrating to Australia from The Netherlands, Marc knows exactly how daunting taking the first step in a new direction can be. On the other hand, he also knows how fulfilling and profitable taking that step can be, and has the knack of imparting his knowledge and wisdom in stunningly simple and highly effective ways. Email Marc at marc@landmarc.info to arrange an introductory 30 minute face-to-face or phone mentoring session! Contact the author, Marc De Bruin , at marc@landmarc.info
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