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Four Tips to Reject the Fear of Rejection
by Marc De Bruin

I'm running an e-commerce business next to my coaching business. It's a really pwerful one, pretty much an online supermarket -without all the "fresh" stuff, though.

The company transitions goods and services to the web. The members buy the goods online and share the revenue created by saving money on storage, logistics, etc. By recommending others do the same thing we create more buying power and passive income.

The Fortune 500 list is full of network marketing companies, and nearly every expert (read Robert Kiyosaki's books, for instance) states that e-commerce is the way to go in the future. It is easy to do, easy to understand, and creates a generous passive income stream.

Sounds simple, doesn't it? It is! As long as you stay in the system, and put in some effort, it IS really simple, predictable and profitable. I am coaching people in setting up their business, and assist them creating that initial income stream. Peanuts, honestly!

Why, then, do so many people baulk at the idea, and are they afraid or wary of getting involved?

Well, apart from fears of getting trapped into some sort of pyramid scheme (which genuine e-commerce businesses are NOT), it is one MAJOR fear.

Rejection.

Part of network marketing is the "spread the word"-activity. It won't work if you won't work it. And working it means letting people know about the existence of the company you are working with. Many people freak out at this idea of "sharing the opportunity".

The fear of rejection is a massive one. Some personality types are more sensitive to rejection than other ones, but generally every type has some form of aversion to it. Logically, that doesn't make any sense at all. IF you know what to do, and understand that it is basically a numbers game, then e-commerce is the ideal choice for everyone who wants to make an extra dollar and become financially independent --my opinion anyway.

Emotions are not logical, though, and that's where we fall off the wagon.

Now whether it is e-commerce, public speaking, approaching the (to be) love of your life or making a sale, the fear of rejection nearly always pops up. There are a number of ways to deal with it, and I just want to run them past you.

1. Get over it. You're scared. So what. Feel the fear and do it anyway. 2. Start building the belief in, and the desire for what it is you want. 3. Apply intervention techniques like Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) to your fear. 4. Engage the services of a coach, with whom you can set up an accountability relationship, and to whom you can commit taking action.

Ad 1. This is the battering-ram approach. If your desire for what's "on the other side" is big enough, you'll face your demons and move beyond them. Fears of rejection in public speaking are overcome by joining a Toastmasters --or any other public speaking- Club, and getting in front of people. Fear of meeting people for networking marketing purposes are overcome by actually saying "hi". Approaching your dream prince(ss) means walking and talking!

Ad 2. There is a balance between what you want and what you don't want. It's based on the universal law of polarity: whatever exists has an equal and exact opposite. Rich vs poor, happy vs sad, dark vs light, success vs failure. You get the picture. Your focus in business and life determines on which side of the line you stand. If you find you are on the "wrong" side, stop dwelling on that immediately, and start thinking about what is on the "good" side. Read about, listen to, associate with everything and everyone on the good side, and you will start to build belief. Belief will prompt you into action for sure. There are plenty of options to assist you with this shift, but ultimately it has to be your decision. What DO you want?

Ad 3. NLP is a great set of tools to assist you changing your thinking. Hypnosis or hypnotherapy CDs, and NLP interventions by a practitioner can help you break through the fear of rejection, and replace it for either a neutral perspective, or a positive perspective towards your desires. Well worth checking out!

Ad 4. I know in my private and professional life, coaching has made a major difference in my results. Given the personality type that I am, I have been a great visionary, but generally not as good an action taker. Knowing that made it really easy for me to brief my coach: make me DO stuff. Too many people want to go at it alone, thinking that they have all the answers. Wrong. Association, accountability and master minding are the ways to increase results and decrease stress and frustration. So: get yourself an accountability partner, whether a professional one or someone in your inner circle. It'll make a heck of a difference.

Ideally I'd like you to find a mix of all 4 remedies to the rejection fear. Approach the matter from every angle, and you'll be over and done with it sooner!

Truly, fear is something that happens somewhere in the 6 inches between your ears. It has no reality whatsoever. Fear is a (bunch of) thought(s) about a POSSIBLE future, based upon what you THINK you know NOW. How can that be real? Start living out your dreams and desires. Way more empowering.

If you'd like to discuss this topic more in-depth, feel free to contact me by email or skype. I'd like to hear your ideas!

Marc is a certified life/business coach, master NLP Practitioner and AusIDentities Personalities Facilitator on the Sunshine Coast in Queensland, Australia. Working as an Executive Business mentor with Glenn Dietzel, Marc is among Australia's Law of Attraction (LOA) experts, and coaches/mentors internationally with the LOA principles in both business and private settings. Marc inspires his clients to create "Knowareness", a powerful state of presence that allows clients to make the right decisions at the right time, all the time. Through powerful Personality Type Profiling techniques, Values Elicitation and Business Positioning tools Marc takes his clients' lives and businesses to massive new heights. Having been a lawyer for nearly 9 years in his “previous life”, before immigrating to Australia from The Netherlands, Marc knows exactly how daunting taking the first step in a new direction can be. On the other hand, he also knows how fulfilling and profitable taking that step can be, and has the knack of imparting his knowledge and wisdom in stunningly simple and highly effective ways. Email Marc at marc@landmarc.info to arrange an introductory 30 minute face-to-face or phone mentoring session! Contact the author, Marc De Bruin , at marc@landmarc.info
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